From Society’s Plans to Our Personal Masks From the moment we are born, we are not just living, We are being prepared - Prepared to be someone. Maybe Someone successful or opposite, Someone valuable or worthless, Someone the world can point to and say: ”Look, they made it.” Or “they failed”. But, apart from the thought prison, in a better world—a world designed for all of us to thrive—that would be beautiful. Because everyone would have access to the tools, the support, the love we need to become our fullest self, I. And, It is possible. Only in theory.
We could build societies that offer real opportunity, real security, real dignity to every living person. We could structure life so that every child is told, “You matter, you belong, your path will be protected.”
But, unfortunately, that is not the world we built. Instead, we built systems that offer this to a few—and leave the rest chasing after a moving finish line. Because we train ourselves to perform for acceptance. We reward only those who fit the image we already decided was worthy.
To clarify, look at something like BTS, the Korean band known worldwide: Those boys didn’t just become stars by their own wishes. They were crafted—from childhood. Trained, molded, rehearsed, polished. An extraordinary plan executed over years, producing icons who could carry the hopes and dreams of millions. And then—after reaching the height—they broke apart.
According to Natural equations, like everybody, they had to find their own paths accordingly. Because even perfect plans cannot protect us from the ultimate deeper question: Is this who I really am?
Human ego is born from this split. On one side: The life we are trained to build.
The version of ourselves where we are rewarded for becoming. On the other side: The messy, untrainable, unmarketable essence of who we actually are. We wear masks not because we are fake, but because we are scared. Scared that without the mask, we are nothing but everything to be. Scared that the life we actually want won’t be allowed.
We are Scared that if we stop performing, we will disappear but where ?
And so we search for ways to patch the pain: Watching Motivational videos on how to “crush it” and “grind harder.” We read Self-help books promising we can “get rich in 100 days.” We do these because of our vulnerable economic structure. To survive, we set new goals, new prizes, new distractions and many more dilemmas.
But beneath all of it, the ache remains: We stopped feeling the truth of our own lives. We traded the unpredictable beauty of love, connection, and being—for the cold certainty of performance and validation. These Ego keeps us alive in the system. Essence keeps us alive in the soul. And somewhere, somehow, we have to decide which life we are actually here to live.